There is a common myth that we have to reward good behaviour and have consequences for bad behaviour in order to get our children to listen and behave.
How do you get your kids to listen? What leverage do you have left as a parent if you can’t use a threat or a bribe to get your child to comply?
The problem is that rewards and punishments make children look outside of themselves for how to behave. Instead, you want to teach children to look within themselves, to their own internal compass of what is right and wrong.