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There is a common myth that we have to reward good behaviour and have consequences for bad behaviour in order to get our children to listen and behave.

How do you get your kids to listen? What leverage do you have left as a parent if you can’t use a threat or a bribe to get your child to comply?
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The problem is that rewards and punishments make children look outside of themselves for how to behave. Instead, you want to teach children to look within themselves, to their own internal compass of what is right and wrong.
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In this episode I talk in depth about how using systems of rewards and punishments to control children’s behaviour can damage the parent-child relationship and lead to more disconnection and more conflict.

I also talk about the alternative to this type of conditional parenting which focuses on connection and building relationship as a way to help children stay connected to themselves and create a cooperative, happy home as a result.

Click here if you would like to learn more about my Peaceful Parent School, my transformative six month program designed to make peaceful parenting a reality in your home and help you create a lifelong deep and satisfying relationship with your child based on connection, not control.

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