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#083 - Forget self-care, do these things for your nervous system firstDoes it infuriate you when people talk about self-care and it feels totally out of your reach?
You are stressed, your kids are fighting and some expert is telling you to take a bath?? Before we can even think about self-care, we need to do this first... |
#082 - Ask me Anything: gentle parenting in preschools, smartphones, nail-biting and potty trainingThis week's episode is an Ask Me Anything episode, where parents in my community submit their questions and I answer them on the pod.
I have some wonderful questions to answer this week which I think will be relevant to so many of you. |
#081 How to say “no” in a gentle way without punishments, arguments or harshnessToday on the podcast I talk about those small interactions you have with your child that happen many times a day but often don’t go so smoothly.
A simple request from you turns into a standoff or an argument - and you just want your child to listen without all the drama. This is something parents ask me about all the time: “I don’t want to respond harshly to my children but I don’t want to be permissive either - what do I do?” |
#080 Why we get angry with our children and the secret to staying calm in the momentToday I talk about why parents get angry in the heat of the moment with their children and what you can do in the moment when you feel the anger rising in you.
This is a re-record of the very first episode of the podcast. The sound quality is poor in the original but it is such a great topic so I wanted to put it out there again in better quality. And we need to hear this information over and over again because in the heat of the moment we can't think well and afterwards we tend to beat ourselves up about not being the gentle parent we want to be. |
#079 When your child doesn’t want to go to schoolIn today's episode I talk about that dreaded scenario when you have your day planned out with work or other commitments and your child says (directly or indirectly) "I don't want to go to school today".
Your heart sinks. You might panic or try to persuade them that they do really want to go. When we act from a place of panic or frustration, it usually leads to upset and conflict and rarely moves things forwards. |
#078 A quick way to connect after you’ve all had a busy day apartIn this week’s episode I talk about a super quick, super effective way to connect with your little ones after you’ve all had a busy day apart.
Often asking them about their day leads to one word answers or can make your child irritable with you. Despite their reluctance to talk to you, they want to reconnect, they want to feel close to you but asking them questions is rarely the best way. |
#077 The only new year’s resolution parents/caregivers need this yearHappy new year!
Today I want to talk about the only new year’s resolution you need to make to get your parenting back on track. It is one of my favourite practices and it is probably one of the most effective and important parenting strategies that you can start using straight away. |
#076 How to slow down, manage the inevitable meltdowns and enjoy Christmas with young childrenOh no, Christmas is almost upon us!
We all know that Christmas with small children doesn't always go smoothly. The mix of excitement, lack of routine and excessive amounts of sugar doesn't always make for a peaceful holiday. But fear not, I am your Christmas elf and I’m going to help you make it through the festive season with your sanity intact - and hopefully you will also be able to have some fun along the way. |
#075 Do you wrestle with your kids? Why rough and tumble play is beneficial and everything you need to know to get started!The last thing exhausted parents want to hear is that they should be playing with their kids more - right?
Perhaps the thought of rough and tumble play fills you with dread, perhaps you have tried it and it all ended in tears, or perhaps you are curious about it but you aren't quite sure how to go about it. This week I'm here to inspire you to give physical play a go with your kids. |
#074 Why parenting in the modern world is so hard - and what can we do?When parenting is hard, when we lose patience with our kids or we don’t have the motivation to give them the attention they need, we almost always blame ourselves.
Parent’s ask me all the time what they can do in these tricky situations. They presume the fault lies with them, if only they responded differently, tried harder, did more, then things would be better. But what if none of it was your fault and the real reason parenting can be so very hard is that we are parenting in a very unnatural way that is in stark contrast to how we evolved as a species to raise our children and live in community together? |
#073 AMA - Ask Me Anything: impulse control, power reversal play, emotional regulation, sibling rivalryToday is an Ask Me Anything episode. I have lots of juicy questions about a whole range of topics including children running away in carparks, responding to a child who always wants a new toy in the shops, helping a child who doesn’t like to say hello or goodbye, a child who often interrupts, impulse control with hitting and sibling rivalry.
I love the Ask Me Anything episodes because I think it helps parents to see that they are not the only ones trying to figure out how to deal with their child in a respectful and gentle way, that other parents are struggling too with the everyday challenges of parenting. |
#072 How to forgive yourself when you mess up in parentingToday I am talking about self-forgiveness in parenting and why it is so very, very important as we all strive to be more gentle parents.
In fact, I will go as far to say that it is difficult to be a gentle parent without extending that same empathy towards yourself. Empathy is at the very heart of gentle parenting but it is often considered something we offer mainly to our children. But it is hard to offer something we aren’t receiving ourselves. |
#071 After-School Restraint Collapse: Why is my child falling apart after school and how can I help them?It is great to be back with season 3 of the podcast!
And today I’m talking about After-school Restraint Collapse. You may not have heard this term - if you haven’t, it simply refers to the phenomenon of kids holding it together all day and then after-school they fall apart. They might have a meltdown in the car on the way home or they might be grumpy and short-tempered for the rest of the day, making everyone else's day miserable too. |
#070 Boundaries are about being true to yourself, not a way to control your kids.This week on the podcast I am talking about boundaries and limits.
Boundaries in parenting are about understanding our own comfort levels and needs in a given moment with our children. They are internal and help us establish limits with our kids. These limits don't have to be harsh or controlling; they can be set in a gentle, loving, and warm manner. Boundaries and limits are not about trying to control our children but rather about being authentic with our children and maintaining our own well-being at the same time. |
#069 How to help children with frustrationThis week on the podcast I am talking about how to help our children with frustration.
I think frustration is one of the most difficult emotions to be with - because so often we end up frustrated ourselves. We quickly get frustrated with our children’s frustration. So this week I’m talking about how we can break out of that cycle of frustration and deal with it in a more emotionally mature way so we can support our children to offload their own frustrations and take on challenges in life without hiding away from the difficult things they are faced with. |
#068 Parenting from afar - how to stay connected when you are away from your childThis week’s topic is prompted from a question in my Facebook group about parenting from afar.
This parent is working away for 3 weeks and wants to know how to help her child with the separation. Separations do affect children, but there is so much we can do to support them with separation - whether it's dropping your child to school or daycare every day or longer separations when you are away for days or weeks. |
#067 When is a consequence actually a threat? And how to swap consequences for connectionThe podcast is back!
Today I’m asking when is a consequence actually a punishment? And how can I swap consequences for connection and still get my kids to bed on time??! This episode was inspired by a parent who asked me about her child who was reluctant to get ready for bed. She asked if saying “If you don’t put on your pajamas we won’t have time to read your bedtime story” Is this a consequence or a punishment? Listen in to find out. |
#066 Your parent questions answered - Part 2: sibling rivalry, consent, chores and moreWelcome back to Part 2 of my parent q&a.
In this episode I answer even more of your parenting questions from sibling rivalry, to teaching consent to helping children with aggression and many more. The first question is about sibling rivalry and how you can set the foundations of a great sibling relationship between your children. |
#065 Your parent questions answered Part 1: sleepovers, school conflict, children and deathWelcome to Episode 65 of the podcast where I answer questions from parents in my free Facebook Group: Peacefully Parenting Under 8s.
First up we have a question about how to navigate sleepovers safely and with confidence. Then I answer a question about dealing with a school where teachers are shouting at children - how can you advocate for your child whilst modelling a gentle and respectful approach. |
#064 Calm the Chaos in Six Simple StepsThis week I share with you my six simple steps to help you stay calm in the chaos.
This is a recording of a live workshop I delivered online last week. I share my six step RETURN process and lots of practical strategies you can put into place straight away to support you on your journey to becoming a peaceful parent. I also share some big perspective shifts that I have learned along the way on my own journey to give up yelling and live out my values of respect and kindness in my parenting. |
#063 How to find your calm again with my two minute nervous system hackToday I want to share with you my favourite practice for finding my calm again when I’m feeling triggered.
In those moments my children need me to be the responsible adult who can regulate my system - who can bring my emotions back into balance again. When you can regulate your emotions, it is the biggest gift to your child because it gives them a sense of safety so they can calm down too. |
#062 The three things I ask myself when I lose it with my kidsI remember a parent asking me a while back how he could take responsibility for the times he lost his temper with his kid. He felt apologising wasn’t enough if he was going to keep going back and making the same mistake again and again. That felt to him like an abusive relationship where the abuser keeps asking for forgiveness only to repeat the same pattern over and over again.
So this week I am talking about how we can take responsibility for the times we get triggered and why simply apologising when we lose it isn’t enough. |
#061 Three big reasons you get angry - and none of them are your faultIn this week’s episode I talk about why parenting is so hard in this modern culture we live in and the three biggest reasons why I believe we get angry and lose it with our kids.
When we are feeling calm, patient and well-resourced, when all our needs are taken care of, when we have no worries, we have no stresses, at those times parenting is easy. We know how to be loving, kind, respectful and patient towards our kids. We can take the time to listen to them. We can see things from their side. We can be deeply empathic of their experience - and of course when we are in that place, parenting goes really well. |
#060 How to respond to family and friends who don’t agree with your parenting choicesWe've all had those comments from well-meaning (or not so well-meaning) family members, friends and even strangers:
"If you lift them up every time they cry you'll spoil them", "I would never have dared answer back like that", "Your child is out of control", "You're being too soft on them". So today I'm talking about how you can respond to these types of comments while still keeping your integrity and dignity! |
#059 If I don't scold my child will they grow up to be entitled?We want to raise children who are considerate and kind towards others and who are grateful for everything we do for them, right?
A lot of parents worry that parenting in a gentle way without punishments or rewards will encourage children to be spoiled or entitled. Is this the case? Is it possible to raise children with respect and empathy without them turning into little brats who demand everything be done for them? |
#057 Parenting your strong-willed childIf you have a strong-willed child, you know about it and it's hard!
You look at other people's children and ask yourself why it all seems so easy for them. They seem to go through life without all the arguments and drama. Meanwhile you are dealing with difficult behaviour, engaging in lengthy explanations and major meltdowns over things like putting on shoes or turning a screen off. |
#056 Christmas survival guide for parentsIt is almost Christmas time and there is so much pressure on parents at this time of year to make memories, to make every moment special, to buy the perfect presents and to make sure your child has a great time.
On top of that we often spend more time with family members which comes with it’s own challenges. The emotional load on parents, especially mums, is huge at this time of year. We are expected to make sure everyone is having a good time, we feel pressure to book fun activities, days out, be the buyer of thoughtful presents for extended family, cook delicious food, manage the meltdowns and upsets and it is never enough. |
#055 How to help children with life’s small disappointments and big challengesToday I talk about how we can help our children with life’s small disappointments as well as the big challenges and changes that so many of us encounter.
One of the main roles of parents is to keep our children safe from harm, to protect them from the ups and downs of life. But we can’t wrap them in bubble wrap and pretend the big bad world doesn’t exist. No matter how careful we are, no matter what precautions we take, life happens. |
#054 How to deal with swearing and name callingMost of us have been there when our child is name calling or using swear words.
It usually brings up a big reaction in us. We respond harshly or we aren't sure how to respond at all. And that is often where the desire to swear arises from with our children. They notice the reaction it brings up in us. Seeing this reaction is compelling to them. |
#053 What does emotionally mature parenting look like and how to get thereWhen I became a parent I would have told you I had life figured out. If you had asked me about my emotional world, I couldn’t have explained much about it.
Yes, I wanted my children to be ‘good with their emotions’,, but I wasn’t very good with my own emotions - so how was I supposed to model or teach this to my own children? Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand and manage your own emotions, as well as recognise and influence the emotions of those around you. |
#052 Do natural or logical consequences have a place in Gentle Parenting?There is a lot of talk in parenting circles about consequences. So I wanted to spend a bit of time breaking down what exactly we mean by consequences, including logical consequences and natural consequences.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen parents in Facebook groups looking for help to think of a logical or a natural consequence for their child’s behaviour. This comes from a belief that children will only learn from their actions if every behaviour has some kind of consequence. |
#051 Is it really possible to parent without punishments and rewards? There is a common myth that we have to reward good behaviour and have consequences for bad behaviour in order to get our children to listen and behave.
How do you get your kids to listen? What leverage do you have left as a parent if you can’t use a threat or a bribe to get your child to comply? The problem is that rewards and punishments make children look outside of themselves for how to behave. Instead, you want to teach children to look within themselves, to their own internal compass of what is right and wrong. |
#050 Your parent questions answered: supporting children with learning, sitting at the dinner table and off-track behaviour when Grandma is visitingToday on the podcast I talk about respecting our children when they are hesitating or feeling uncertain about joining in at times like Halloween, but also other times like getting photos taken with Santa, joining in at birthday parties or participating in other activities you’ve signed them up for.
Whatever the situation may be, it is really common for young children to be uncertain at these times, to hesitate and hang back in your safety. For me it always seemed like everyone else’s children were so much more confident and well-adjusted compared to my daughter who would be hiding her head in my leg and clinging on to me for dear life. |
#049 Respecting children's fears and uncertainty at times like HalloweenToday on the podcast I talk about respecting our children when they are hesitating or feeling uncertain about joining in at times like Halloween, but also other times like getting photos taken with Santa, joining in at birthday parties or participating in other activities you’ve signed them up for.
Whatever the situation may be, it is really common for young children to be uncertain at these times, to hesitate and hang back in your safety. For me it always seemed like everyone else’s children were so much more confident and well-adjusted compared to my daughter who would be hiding her head in my leg and clinging on to me for dear life. |
#048 Seven ways to keep your cool when your child is pushing your buttons
The biggest gift you can give your children when they are struggling with big emotions, when they are frustrated or upset, is to be the calm in their storm.
It is your parenting superpower. When you can come to the situation with calm, you can be the confident leader your child needs in that moment. You can model emotional regulation and help your child co-regulate with your balanced system. |
#047 The power of listening and the origins of Hand in Hand Parenting with Patty WipflerThis week on the podcast I am so deeply honoured to be in conversation with Patty Wipfler, founder of Hand in Hand Parenting.
Patty has been working with parents for 47 years. Over that time she has developed the parenting by connection approach, the five listening tools you hear me talk about on the podcast (Listening Partnerships for parents, Staylistening, Setting Limits, Special Time and Playlistening) and the Hand in Hand Parenting organisation which supports 1000s of parents around the world. |
#046 Supporting our children to cope with grief, death and dyingThis week I talk about how we can support our children to cope with grief, death and dying.
Grief is something we want to protect our children from. It is such a difficult time if you and your family are experiencing grief, if there is a death in your immediate family, a parent, a grandparent, a close family member, a friend, someone in the community - or a much loved pet. All of these may prompt your child to ask about death or might bring up some big feelings for them if they lose someone they love. |
#045 Raising Body Happy Kids with Molly Forbes
This week I talk to writer, campaigner and journalist Molly Forbes. Molly is author of the book Body Happy Kids: how to help children and teens love the skin they’re in. In this episode, Molly shares her own journey to becoming body happy and how that led to her passion to help parents and children be happy in their bodies too. We go on to talk about a wide range of topics with lots of practical ideas to help you raise body happy kids and become more body happy yourself. |
#044 Why gentle parenting is about connection instead of control
I talk a lot about connection on this podcast and I just realised I’ve never done an episode just about connection. So here it is! I often hear people ask - what exactly is gentle parenting? Or maybe they call it peaceful parenting, conscious parenting, respectful parenting or attachment parenting. There is no standard definition, so today I'm talking about what I mean when I talk about gentle parenting. For me it is all about moving from control-based parenting to connection-based parenting. |
#043 How to help children stay connected to their true selves
In this week’s episode I talk about raising children who are able to stay connected to their true selves. I believe the only way to be truly content and satisfied in life is to be able to stay connected to ourselves and what we truly want and need in life. When we are able to act from a place of connection to ourselves and make decisions based on what is in line with our true selves, I believe it is the best way to live a happy, satisfying and fulfilling life. |
#042 Ten tips for raising children who actually like you when they grow up.
Most of us have big hopes and dreams for our children when we become parents. The type of people they will grow up to be, the type of relationship they will have with us as they grow and eventually become adults. But so often those hopes and dreams seem to get swamped in the day to day chaos of parenting. I believe we all hope to have a close and loving relationship with our children throughout their lives as they grow up into adults. |
#041 Back to School - 9 ways to pack and unpack your child’s emotional backpack
Welcome back to season 2 of the podcast! For many of us here in the northern hemisphere, summer has come to an end and we are getting back to our routines: whether that is starting school or childcare for the first time or returning after the summer break. For those who home educate, it might be adjusting to having less friends around and finding a new routine. People are sharing their back to school photos on social media. Everyone is looking shiny and excited. However, if you and your child are struggling with this transition you aren't alone. We don't talk about the challenges of going back to school enough. |
#040 Eight things I learned (the hard way) about gentle parenting
When my daughter became a toddler, I felt totally lost I didn’t know what I was doing Six months later I was super confident as a parent. Parenting was still intense and challenging but the shouting was under control and there was so much more laughter. So let me share what I learned along the way so you can make this happen too. |
#039 How to survive and thrive through the summer holidays
Today I am talking about the summer holidays. Whether your kids are off school already or maybe they’re finishing up in the next week or so, it is normal to have mixed feelings about the summer break. Maybe you are relieved to be finished with the school run for a few weeks or maybe you have to work and you’re stressing about juggling childcare and summer camps. You might be home alone a lot with your kids and you’re not quite sure how you are going to manage the change in routine - should you go with the flow or should you create a timetable or structure for your time off? |
#038 Keeping Your Child Safe Online with Jen Hoey
So much parenting advice centres on our children. What we should do or say to make things go more smoothly, tools we can employ to get our kids cooperating or behaving in a way that will make life easier for us. But today I want to talk about an overlooked parenting tool - taking care of ourselves. |
#037 Teaching our children about consent and bodily autonomy.
So much parenting advice centres on our children. What we should do or say to make things go more smoothly, tools we can employ to get our kids cooperating or behaving in a way that will make life easier for us. But today I want to talk about an overlooked parenting tool - taking care of ourselves. |
#036 Why getting your needs met matters and how to make it happen
So much parenting advice centres on our children. What we should do or say to make things go more smoothly, tools we can employ to get our kids cooperating or behaving in a way that will make life easier for us. But today I want to talk about an overlooked parenting tool - taking care of ourselves. |
#035 How to gently set limits on screen time
Hands up who has a battle on their hands when it comes to ending screen time? Do you avoid setting limits on screens because you don't want to deal with the inevitable meltdown? Do you wish your child could switch off without a massive fight? In this episode I share some gentle ways to turn screen time conflicts into a time of connection. |
#034 Tooth-brushing Special: how to diffuse standoffs with the power of play
I’m very excited because today I am sharing with you my magic formula for overcoming parenting standoffs using laughter and play. Specifically I’m going to be looking at teeth brushing, but this applies to many different power struggles we have with our kids. I’ll help you understand what is going on with the power struggle dynamic, what emotions are behind it and what you can do about it. This is one of my favourite things to talk about. |
#033 When a child favours one parent or caregiver
Today I'm talking about how to manage when a child prefers one parent or caregiver over another. Maybe your child has a meltdown when it's their Dad's turn to put them to bed so you end up doing bedtime every night just to keep the peace. Or your child is in great form all day at school or childcare but their behaviour becomes unmanageable as soon as you walk through the door. |
#032 Stop the Parent Stress!
Parenting stress is so normal in our society. And then on top of that we tell ourselves “If only I do more, be more patient, try harder, be a better parent”. The truth is that parenting is under-valued and under-supported. We are so often parenting within small nuclear families instead of the supportive communities we need to meet our needs and thrive. Read more and listen |
#031 Solving Bedtime and Sleep Challenges
This week I am talking about all things bedtime and sleep. Would you like bedtime to run more smoothly without battling to get PJs on? Maybe you want to support your child to fall asleep more easily or without you right there in the room? Or you are looking for gentle ways to support your child to sleep all night in their own bed? Read more and listen |
#030 How to have realistic expectations for your child
What expectations should we have of our kids? Should a 4 year old be able to tidy up themselves after an activity? Should a 10 year old be able to shower and get dressed by themselves? Should your 8 year old know better than to lie? Is it helpful to have expectations at all? Read more and listen |
#029 How to respond when your child says “I hate myself”
Maybe it hasn't happened yet and you want to be prepared, or maybe your child has started saying "I hate myself" or similar. It is heart-breaking for us as parents to see our children struggle. We want to help them, we want them to see through our eyes how wonderful they are. But often our own story gets caught up in our responses and we struggle to respond in helpful ways, or we simply have no idea how to respond. Read more and listen |
#028 Big Picture Parenting: the why of gentle parenting and how it can change the world with Kathryn McCabe
In this week’s episode I am joined by Kathryn McCabe, social ecologist and founder and director of the Change Agency. Kathryn is passionate about creating change at a systems level and in this conversation we look at how we can change our society for the better through parenting. I invite you to check out Kathryn’s website and Facebook page. We started this conversation in a workshop we jointly facilitated as part of the Imagine Festival of Ideas in March 2022 on how parenting can change the world. Here is the link to the replay of the full workshop. Read more and listen |
#027 Competitive Child? How to help a sore loser
Do board games with your child end in arguments and frustration? Is everything a race to see is first and best? Is there a lot of competition between siblings and huge upset when someone gets more than the other? Today I am talking about how to support your child with competitive behaviour. Read more and listen |
#026 The 10 minute connection-boosting parenting superpower (aka Special Time)
Today I’m going to talk about a parenting tool you can use in as little as 10 minutes. It builds connection. It brings fun. It’s practically guaranteed to bring laughter. It is the glue of your relationship with your kids. It helps with sibling rivalry, builds cooperation and helps kids overcome fears. It builds their confidence, self-control and emotional regulation. All this in as little as 10 minutes a day. Read more and listen |
#025 Should we make our kids apologise or say please, thank you, excuse me?
In this week’s episode I talk about whether we should make our children say sorry, please, thank you or excuse me. We want our kids to grow up to be polite, considerate and respectful to others We are brought up in a society that expects children to be well behaved, that judges parents (or parents feel judged) if their kids aren’t polite. Children learn from what we do. So if we are polite, thank people when we mean it, apologise when we’re wrong, they will learn to do it too. Read more and Listen. |
#024 After school meltdowns and grumpiness - why they happen and how to help
Dealing with a grumpy child after school can be hard work. You want to connect with them after being away from them for several hours, you want to find out how their day has gone, but instead you are met with grumpiness, aggression or meltdowns. In this week's episode I talk about why our children struggle so much after school or childcare and what you can do to support them. Read more and Listen. |
#023 Overcoming Morning Meltdowns
Ever wondered how you can have more peaceful, playful mornings - without all the tantrums about getting dressed, brushing teeth and eating breakfast? In this bonus episode from a Facebook Live I did this week for the Hand in Hand Parenting Facebook page, I show you how the Hand in Hand Parenting tools can inject connection into your days so you see more smiles instead of struggles in the mornings. Read more and Listen. |
#022 How do I stop my child from whining?
Whining can be one of the most annoying and frustrating things for us to deal with as parents. It often feels like our children are doing it because they know it annoys us so much! And once it starts it feels like nothing will solve it. As always when our children’s behaviour is tricky, it’s good to look behind the surface behaviour. Read more and Listen. |
#021 Setting Limits: why gentle parenting is not permissive parenting
Today I'm talking about how we can parent in a gentle and respectful way without being permissive. It is possible to model good boundaries and limits with our children without harshness or punishments. In fact, setting limits early and often can strengthen our relationships and develop our children's emotional intelligence. Read more and Listen. |
#020 Why kids hit, bite, pinch or kick and what to do about it
Are you struggling with your child's aggression? Maybe it is directed towards you, a sibling or at other children in childcare or school. We often try explaining, reading stories about "gentle hands" or punishing our children for their aggressive behaviour. But the key to stopping aggression lies in the feelings driving the behaviour. Find out how to support your child so they can let go of aggression. Read more and Listen. |
#019 Five Simple and unexpected ways to help your child sleep well in their own bed
Bed-sharing and co-sleeping are amazing and often just what young children need. But maybe you are exhausted and ready for your child to sleep in their own bed. Or maybe they are in their own beds but it takes forever for them to fall asleep, you have to stay with them or they wake a lot during the night looking for you. Here I share 5 ways to support children to fall asleep themselves and sleep well all night. Read more and Listen. |
#018 How to prevent our children from lying, denying, sneaking or bragging?
How do we encourage our children to be honest with us? How do we make it safe for them to come to us when they do something wrong or mess up? How do we make sure they grow up to be adults who take responsibility for their actions? Read more. |
#017 The difference between regular play and Playlistening
This is a bonus episode from a Facebook Live I did on the main Hand in Hand Parenting Facebook page. Today we're talking about the difference between regular play and Playlistening. So join me as I talk more about Playlistening and give you lots of helpful ideas to get creative with play. Read more. |
#016 Leaning in to our children’s boredom
The thing about boredom is that it is definitely not about having nothing to do. I'm sure your house is full of games and toys and things to do. Feeling bored is a sign that your child is running low on connection. I'm sure you have tried making suggestions of things to do. So what can you do? Read more. |
#015 How can we navigate parenting when our partner or co-parent has a very different parenting style to ourselves?
What happens when your partner or co-parent has a very different parenting style to you? Maybe they parent in ways you prefer they would not - with harshness or anger. We don’t want to undermine them but we want to protect our child. So how do we best support our children or our partner with this? Read more. |
#014 How to be a more playful parent! (and how play can solve common parenting standoffs)
If you feel like poking me in the eye at the thought of being more playful and spending more time playing with your children - I hear you! As parents, we spend so much time taking care of our kids and everyone else's needs first that there is seldom time or energy left for play. I get it! But we can learn to be playful and it pays off big time!! Read more. |
#013 Chores: how to raise helpful, considerate children who *want* to help out
This week I'm talking about chores and getting our kids to tidy up. Is it worth the battle? Will we raise selfish, entitled children if we don't make them do the chores? Read more. |
#012 Why you’ll never “ruin” your child
This is a bonus episode from a Facebook Live I did on the main Hand in Hand Parenting Facebook page. Have you ever doubted your gentle approach to parenting? Ever been told that you are too soft on your kids? Read more. |
#011 The secret ingredient that makes homework go well
It's already been a long day and homework is looming over you. How do you make it a time of connection instead of a time of conflict? In this episode I answer a listener's questions about supporting her children with homework. Read more. |
#010 Helping our kids settle back to school or routine after the holidays
Christmas time or other holiday seasons can become stressful. We are often out of our normal routines and spending time with family. Our kids pick up on the excitement and stress and emotions can run high. Here I suggest 5 ways you can make the holidays less stressful. Read more. |
#009 Five Tips for surviving Christmas or other holidays with young children
Christmas time or other holiday seasons can become stressful. We are often out of our normal routines and spending time with family. Our kids pick up on the excitement and stress and emotions can run high. Here I suggest 5 ways you can make the holidays less stressful. Read more. |
#008 Real life examples of how connection-based parenting works
We need constant reminders of the power of connection and how it can turn things around with your child. Here I share two examples of how connection at bedtime can help your child get off to sleep. I would love to hear your stories of connection Read more. |
#007 How to respond when your child is upset and shouts "Go Away!"
This is something parents ask me all the time. They want to support their child and be there for them but they are met with "Leave me alone" or "Go away". How do we respond in a way that is respectful and supportive of our children's emotions? Read more. |
#006 Sibling Rivalry - 5 steps to building a strong sibling relationship
How should we respond to our children's big feelings in a way that is respectful and develops emotional resilience? This is a tricky one for many parents, especially when our children pick the most difficult and inappropriate moments to have a meltdown in public or in front of family members who might not be fully on board with gentle parenting. Read more. |
#005 How to respond to meltdowns and tantrums in a way that builds emotional resilience
How should we respond to our children's big feelings in a way that is respectful and develops emotional resilience? This is a tricky one for many parents, especially when our children pick the most difficult and inappropriate moments to have a meltdown in public or in front of family members who might not be fully on board with gentle parenting. Read more. |
#004 Why I don’t tickle and what to do instead
This is a quick episode where I share my thoughts about tickling and why tickling isn’t part of our family culture. I share my reasons, invite you to reflect on your own experiences of tickling and give you some ideas of what to do instead. Read more. |
#003 How 10 minutes of rough and tumble play can turn bedtime around
Today I'm talking about physical play, the huge benefits it has to our kids' development and how it strengthens the parent-child relationship....all of which builds cooperation in our children. Physical play before bedtime can help a child feel relaxed and connected enough to go to sleep more easily. Read more. |
#002 A fresh approach to help our children with sharing
On this week’s episode I talk about why we get angry with our children and the secret to staying calm in the moment. Would you like to get your kids listening so you don’t have to shout, and instead you can start enjoying being a parent? then get signed up to my next virtual Peaceful Parenting Masterclass. Read more. |
#001 Why we get angry with our children and the secret to staying calm in the moment.
On this week’s episode I talk about why we get angry with our children and the secret to staying calm in the moment. Would you like to get your kids listening so you don’t have to shout, and instead you can start enjoying being a parent? then get signed up to my next virtual Peaceful Parenting Masterclass. Read more. |
"I cannot thank Pamela enough for the patience, warmth and kindness she has shown. She has given me the tools to make a difference in the relationship with my children."
- Mum of two, February 2021 Course Participant
Pamela Quiery Parent Coach
Providing local services in Belfast, Northern Ireland and online around the world. ☎ +44 7450203275 [email protected] |