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There is a lot of talk in parenting circles about consequences. So I wanted to spend a bit of time breaking down what exactly we mean by consequences, including logical consequences and natural consequences.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen parents in Facebook groups looking for help to think of a logical or a natural consequence for their child’s behaviour. This comes from a belief that children will only learn from their actions if every behaviour has some kind of consequence. |
The problem is that there is a very fine line between a consequence and a punishment.
It comes down to our motivation. Are we trying to manipulate our child’s behaviour so they behave in certain ways or are we there to support them and offer connection when they are struggling?
Once we get clear on our motivations, we can approach children’s behaviour with a level of trust and connection that will strengthen the parent-child relationship. When we try to control children’s behaviour through using systems of punishments and rewards, we are using our power over our children. This erodes trust and leads to more tricky behaviour in the long term.
If you haven’t already, you might want to check out last week’s episode 51 where I break down punishments and rewards.
I would also like to invite you to my new workshop The Screen Time Solution where I am going to talk about how to end the screen battles and stay connected to your children in a digital world. It takes place on Thursday 24th November at 8pm UK Time (12pm PST, 3pm EST). Click here to find out more and book your place.
If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend and consider leaving an iTunes review. It will help this conversation reach even more parents.
I would love to stay in touch! You can follow me on Facebook and Instagram @PamParentCoach. I always love to hear from my listeners.
It comes down to our motivation. Are we trying to manipulate our child’s behaviour so they behave in certain ways or are we there to support them and offer connection when they are struggling?
Once we get clear on our motivations, we can approach children’s behaviour with a level of trust and connection that will strengthen the parent-child relationship. When we try to control children’s behaviour through using systems of punishments and rewards, we are using our power over our children. This erodes trust and leads to more tricky behaviour in the long term.
If you haven’t already, you might want to check out last week’s episode 51 where I break down punishments and rewards.
I would also like to invite you to my new workshop The Screen Time Solution where I am going to talk about how to end the screen battles and stay connected to your children in a digital world. It takes place on Thursday 24th November at 8pm UK Time (12pm PST, 3pm EST). Click here to find out more and book your place.
If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend and consider leaving an iTunes review. It will help this conversation reach even more parents.
I would love to stay in touch! You can follow me on Facebook and Instagram @PamParentCoach. I always love to hear from my listeners.