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Whining can be one of the most annoying and frustrating things for us to deal with as parents.
It often feels like our children are doing it because they know it annoys us so much! And once it starts it feels like nothing will solve it. As always when our children’s behaviour is tricky, it’s good to look behind the surface behaviour. All behaviour is communication. |
It is our job to decode the signals a child is sending us.
They don’t have the cognitive skills to have a measured conversation with us about what is going on for them. That would be so much easier for us to navigate. If we could decode their behaviour, the whining is a signal that a child is feeling alone and powerless. They have been overtaken by these feelings and even when we offer them our presence, they are unable to let us in.
These feelings are getting in the way of them feeling your offers of connection.
So what our aim is to find a way through to our sweet child inside who just wants to feel all ok again.
We need to find a way for them to feel our connection.
In this week's episode I offer a few suggestions of how you might re-establish connection when dealing with a whining child.
Thanks for joining me. If you’re ready to get your kids listening so you don’t have to shout, and instead you can start enjoying being a parent, then get signed up to my next virtual Parenting Masterclass "Why your kids won't listen and what you can do about it".
They don’t have the cognitive skills to have a measured conversation with us about what is going on for them. That would be so much easier for us to navigate. If we could decode their behaviour, the whining is a signal that a child is feeling alone and powerless. They have been overtaken by these feelings and even when we offer them our presence, they are unable to let us in.
These feelings are getting in the way of them feeling your offers of connection.
So what our aim is to find a way through to our sweet child inside who just wants to feel all ok again.
We need to find a way for them to feel our connection.
In this week's episode I offer a few suggestions of how you might re-establish connection when dealing with a whining child.
Thanks for joining me. If you’re ready to get your kids listening so you don’t have to shout, and instead you can start enjoying being a parent, then get signed up to my next virtual Parenting Masterclass "Why your kids won't listen and what you can do about it".